Single Again "Time For Nothing" A Single Mom's Plight

By: Kenneth Stepp

Time is a commodity. Is it, or is it a wall between you and something you want? Could something else be waiting for you on the other side of your schedule? Since the singles I speak with happen to be girls. I have seen what can only be, conditions that mostly affect girls. Most notably, single moms. Usually, they take the kids, they run their schedules to suit their children. So, the have to fit two or more lives into one. Life without a partner has some drawbacks. This is one of them.

It use to be that spiritualists and fringe philosophers spoke of time in ways that tell us it isn’t real. Of late, physicists and neuroscientists are beginning to hop on this same train. Now that Dr Robert Lanza has joined this team. The science community is abuzz about time and space. Why was his statements taken with so much credibility? His accomplishments and knowledge given to science are too many to name. But him being considered one of the top 3 scientists alive, by the science community, grabs my attention. He says he has proven there is an afterlife. That these carbon suits we call our bodies are just that, suits. We are consciousness or soul. Not what you see and feel. An Atheist no more. His work with time and space are pretty big too. He says we wear time and space like a turtle shell. That they simply do not exist. They are needed to compartmentalize our events in life while in the flesh. Again. He has better credentials than anyone else.

Weather we wear time or it affects us in some other way. We still have to deal with it. Some of us more than others. Me, i don’t own an alarm clock. I wake when I want, go to bed when I want. I find it amazing that even with this freedom, I awake about the same time. And go to bed about the same time. I guess time is there for me too.

Most of these single moms have a job. At least the lucky ones do. Clocks and watches control their lives. It’s maddening at times. I have watched them try to fit 25 plus hours in a day many times. Many want a life with romance. But their calendar is screaming for other things it feels are more important. One alternative would be to invite a date to a game, concert, play, etc, that her child is involved in. It may not be conventional. But for me. I love watching a mom be a mom. Unconditional love is nice to witness.

I work seven days a week. Most do not know this about me. But, I work primarily from my laptop and cell phone. Flexibility is there. I have worked for years to build this life, now it has started coming together. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Most of these single moms can’t do this. Time just won’t allow it. Time is to some, a slave master. And a mean one. If a week flies by like it was a day to me, these over worked moms must see whole years go by like it was jet powered.

Is there an answer? The oud saying, work smarter, not harder. This helps nothing. When one is already booked 40 hours at work and has 4 events to not only attend, but, in many cases, help with. There just isn’t any time left for her/ These days will pass. Children grow into adults, move away, and we hope to see them during holidays at least. Then there is too much time. I have seen both. Neither one is easy. Neither one is  good for her. Two people struggling to make ends meet and enslaved to a calendar, can make one another’s life so much better. Two incomes make the struggle go away. Two people getting things done, make the tasks easier and more enjoyable. I guess figuring out how to get from two separated to two joined is the real mystery. I will end my query as a query. Not an answer. Do you have one?

I am now a thermometer, because I can see the problem. My goal is to become the thermostat. See the problem, fix the problem. Answers are few.

k@kstepp.com

Founder, American Angel Works