Enjoy The Roses And Furniture Now, Do Not Wait Elita Sohmer Clayman

Dale Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer. He was born in 1888 and died in 1955. He developed courses in self-improvement and public speaking. He wrote a bestselling book that is still sought after today. It was called How To Win Friends and Influence People. His theory was to change other people’s behavior by changing one’s reaction to them. What he meant I am not sure, was the way you react to someone, influences the way they treat you. Then he must have thought, your reaction can change them. I do not know exactly what that means. It seems to me when people idolize movie and television stars or athletes, these people react to you a certain way, because you reacted to them in a certain way.Then they perceive your admiration and some of them are excited to have it and others think they were due it.

He said the following: “One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our window today.”

This is a thoughtful admonition about putting off things now for things in the future we may be craving. We all think we will wait to take a trip when we are older or have more money to spend doing it.We put off perhaps having children if we want them until our finances are better. We put off taking up a hobby until we have more leisure time. We put off wonderful things we desire until we are older. We put off buying a home until we have enough money to furnish it. Putting off or delaying things is a good thought if you buy frivolously and you do not have the resources to pay for the items. However, sometimes, it is fine to buy something and pay it off unless the interest is too high. Now days, cars and furniture are given to you with no credit interest for several years or in the case of a new car, very low interest rates.  This makes it easier to own some things you need or want without putting it off for too long and eventually never attaining that item you want badly. I do not think one should buy things they cannot afford; however, some possessions are necessary for our living in a nice manner.

If you can get the no interest rate or a very low interest rate, then go for it and enjoy what you desire, before you get too old to desire or want it. If you want a new home and you can afford the down payment, the move in costs and the per month payments, it is normal not to have it completely furnished in all the rooms. When we bought our one and only home forty-eight years ago, my Mom gave us the money for the carpeting in the large living room and the normal size dining room. We had dining room furniture from our apartment and only had to buy two buffet cabinets to complete the set. We recovered the chairs and voila, it was like new and looked lovely. In the large living room, the only piece we had was a stereo wood cabinet, a large one and this occupied the living room as its sole piece of furniture. A few years of that and we bought a used baby grand piano from an ad in the newspaper and we had it refinished from a dark mahogany to a creamy white finish. The piano was a bargain and cost two hundred fifty dollars and the refinishing about five hundred dollars and so for a grand total of seven hundred fifty dollars, we had a gorgeous musical instrument and a handsome piece of furniture. We also used the piano top which is very large, to place little objects that were decorative and made the room more beautiful, even though we did not have the rest of the furniture yet.

The sofa and chairs came a few years later when we had the money to pay for them and then came the grand draperies. So it took about almost four to five years and that was a fun way of decorating the room and having the money to pay for it. The room grew as the family grew and we grew our house into a lovely home and dwelling. I think we appreciated waiting for the furniture, piece by piece and loved each one even more than if we had bought them all at once.  We dreamed as Carnegie said of the items we wanted, but we did not put off living, because we did not have all of them at once. We enjoyed what we bought slowly but surely and as we added to the room, we also had the blessing of another child, a son and so the house grew as the children grew and we blossomed too by the beauty we had with the furniture and with two children.

Some people get themselves in debt by buying too much and then are unable to pay their bills. That was not our way and never will be. The anticipation of waiting for something to own is sometimes almost as exciting as obtaining the specific object.  When I decided to remodel the kitchen, I thought it out for over three months and then went about investigating what I wanted and the costs and the styles of the item and quality etc. During the three month period, I figured out what would fit in the designated spaces, how it would look and who I wanted to buy the appliances from and how reliable the firm was I wanted to deal with. It was kind of fun anticipating the final look and even though we had trouble with the flooring not being installed properly at first; and having to have it redone, the end result was almost worth the added dust, cleaning up and  inconveniences we had.

When I want something new, I do investigate more than ever because with the Internet, you have many more possibilities and are able to create new ideas and thoughts about what you like. In former days, you had to deal with a decorator, cut pictures out of home magazines, buy a book on decorating and worry your brain if you would be satisfied or dissatisfied with the end results. By having the Internet, you can look at appliances online, figure the measurements, and see the colors available and the guarantees coming to you. You have all this education before you put a step into the appliance or furniture store.

When we bought the dining room set for our first home in the apartment, we saw the table and chairs, but the breakfront or hutch as it is sometimes called was only seen from a photo in the furniture store. It was not on display on the floor there. So you were virtually buying it from a picture and pictures can be deceptive. It is hard to return furniture you do not like, though it can be done probably for a fee, if that is the store policy and you know it beforehand.

Dale Carnegie is saying that tending to put off living until another time is tragic or sad. He states that we should not be always dreaming of things, we should enjoy the now blooming things available to us. He gives an analogy of roses, but you can use that in anything in your life. If you want things and cannot completely afford them now; find ways of some special financing that you can afford and perhaps buy the item now and pay it off, if not too much interest is accrued. He believed we need the enjoyment now and if it comes with a slight increase of laying out money, it possibly is better than to keep on yearning for it and not have the enjoyment at the present time. I do not believe you should buy items without thinking of if you can pay for them, one way or the other, outright or with some interest that is a light interest and not too overwhelming for your finances. If you can figure this out and it does not leave you furniture poor or mortgage poor or appliance poor, because of the high payments; then when you think this out and that is so, enjoy it at this moment, instead of putting your joy in owning it, off for years.

Do not go in such debt, that you cannot make the necessary payments, but also do not wait unnecessary time periods if you really can afford the required remittances or installments. The joy you receive is sometimes worth a little extra cash and if needed, cut down on unnecessary things like spending lots of money for expensive dinners. I always feel, once the food is in your tummy, it does not know whether the steak cost thirty-five dollars in a fancy restaurant of five dollars bought at the supermarket and you grilled or broiled it at home. The taste making its journey to your body will be just as tasteful and you will have the thirty dollars to put towards your furniture or appliance or vacation or whatever you really want a lot.

You will as Dale said enjoy the roses blooming inside or outside (furniture too) TODAY AND NOT HAVE PUT OFF LIVING NOW.