Take Care And A Reason For Disappointments And More Caring Elita Sohmer Clayman

Every disappointment comes for a reason. A friend of mine, a medical doctor told me that in an email. She is opening up her own office, whereas she has been working for clinic groups as a physician. It was time for a talented, kind and knowledgeable doctor to have her own place and space. She will do well in there and as soon as the word spreads on what a fine doctor she is, she will be overwhelmed with patients wanting her services. She said this to me because she was supposed to open up sooner and they, whoever they are, came to inspect her electrical system and found some irregularities that the electrician had performed. So they had to be corrected and now that it is, she has to wait for the inspectors to give the go ahead and that will probably be for a week or two until grand opening day.

She said that every disappointment comes for a reason and so she is satisfied that it will be corrected correctly.  When she finished telling me everything in the email, she signed it with “Take good care.” Usually people will say to you take care, when you have finished a purchase in a store, or been to the doctor’s office etc. She added this word of good to care. I was thinking about this and thought that it was a great addition. Take good care is better than take care. The good means you will look out for yourself in a caring manner that is good for you.

 The addition of the one word is quite a quality addition. Taking care is the usual wording, taking good care means you put extra and additional thought to your caring about yourself and others too.  I like that extra word and if you think about it, we can add additional words to lots of thoughts.

We are used to saying “Have a Happy Holiday season” or “Happy Birthday.” It would be nice to add to them “Have a Happy and Caring Holiday season” or “Have a Happy and Caring Birthday.” The word caring means consideration, thought and diligence. When we have caring, we are being considerate and thoughtful. To be thoughtful is a great addition to one’s life. If you can think of others, you will think well of yourself.

They say you must love or admire yourself first, before you can love or admire others. I loved my parents a whole lot from the moment I was old enough to appreciate what their love of me meant to me. I remember little things they did for me that now days with all the expensive items out there for kids; would seem inconsequential to today’s children. They would think it trivial and piddling. If I received a quarter (twenty five cents) to buy a magazine for the month, I was overwhelmed with simple happiness. Some months, Mom would say, not this month and I would understand that a trivial (now) quarter was important for the household and I knew that next month, I would get it. Children now days get twenty dollar toys in a moment. That is OK if you can afford it, and if it is a worthwhile toy, game, book, go for it.

The parents are more well to do now days and children are used to more advantages and material things and that does not make them naughty or being given too much. They eventually will realize what money means and if one week or month, you say no to them, they will understand because you will have instilled in them what money means and how it got here. Grandparents were made to spoil their grandchildren and if you are lucky enough to have grandchildren; go for it and spoil them and they will always remember you forever.

I always still remember my two aunts who were like my grandmother and the little and I mean little and inexpensive things that they could afford to give me. It did not matter the cost, it was the beauty of them presenting to me something they made that makes me still remember them with a special love. I had no grandmothers or grandfathers and to me they were my special aunts/grandmoms. They would sew a satin piece of material into a small pouch and put a drawstring in and through it and put in ten single pennies and give it to me for  Chanukah or for my birthday and sometimes in an in-between visit.

That is what they could barely afford, yet they gave it to me because I was their grandchild/niece and neither of them ever had children of their own. They were the kind who if they lived in this period of time would say “take good care of yourself.”  I recently bought a ten pair set of different colored pearl stretch bracelets and they came packed in a red satin pull string pouch. Immediately, it brought back fine memories of my two aunts, Jenny and Sarah who made me similar pouches for the coins.

We try to take good care of our children, our pets, our home, our cars. Now is the time to take good care of our self, so we are here to see the grandkids grow up and if we are lucky, maybe, become great grandparents. Even if that does not happen, caring for yourself and others is a good job.

It is a job, as if it was a real job; we would go to every day all year long. My friend, the doctor is only in her mid-forties and she is a caring, kind, compassionate doctor and whoever becomes her patient in the real near future will receive that good care I am writing about. She is a long distance in miles from me, but if I was closer, I would become a patient there, if my fine doctor ever left his position here. I would recommend her to anyone who lives in that part of Maryland and give her high marks. I had the opportunity several times to use her services at the urgent care clinic she worked at and I found her to be quite kind-hearted, capable and dear. Her name is Kamala Antoinette Foster and she will be in Gaithersburg, Maryland. If you live in that vicinity, look her up and this is no commercial for her, it is only a true and CARING bit of advice.

So take good care and if you seek good care there, she will be available in a few weeks with her new office. I have good care here in my home section and if you are fortunate enough to have caring medical people caring for you; then you are certainly being cared for. Remember what she said that every disappointment comes for a reason and if you can find the reason, you will find a solution.

“The only oracle of man is reason” said Ethan Allen and “Reason is a harmony among irrational impulses” said George Santayana.

So reason and caring are important words to keep in our vocabulary and if we can reason things out and then we are taking good care of our self and others, we are surely having much harmony in our life.