Sex and Apple Juice

Sex is limitless.

Ok, I know that was a bit blunt but this column can only be but so long, so I will get straight to the point. We live in a sexual society and though things are masked and overlooked, most of us can agree that at times physical attention is needed in life. Unless your have dedicated your life to religion or to yourself, sex is irreplaceable. The place we live in and reside helps to narrow this assessment.  

I was in the process of remodeling my West Hyattsville home when I received a phone call from a neighbor who lives in the community of Lewisdale and also attended (I’m thankful that even though I went to Laurel High, most of my childhood friends are Northwestern alumni. There is just something about those Northwestern students. They are always filled with excitement). 

Anyhow, my friend explained to me that she had something to speak to me about and that she was on her way. As I opened my door, I was greeted by her bright smile from ear to ear. My hair was a mess and I had been pulling up carpet all morning. I was not in a smiling mood. She blurts out, “I got laid and I think he’s the one.”

All right. At this point I have my reason to smile.

She entered my home, sketching out every detail of her night with this mysterious man. As she galloped around inside my house I noticed the extra pep in her step. Guess she really must have enjoyed herself.

We went into my kitchen to discuss details. Very enthused about the situation she explained that she had wanted this mystery guy psychically for a while and she finally got him. She made herself available and he accepted the invitation. Her speaking to me brought me to the motivation for this column—sex and apple juice.

The fragments of the story my friend explained to me may seem a bit crazy as I relay them to you. Let me just assure you that my friend is not crazy at all. She is rather highly intelligent, beautiful and hard working. But at times she will let matters of the heart crowd her perception and thought process. Hey, she’s only human right? 

For example, she now wants more from the guy due to their night of passion. She believes he might be the one for her because he goes the “extra mile.” She gave me the example of when she asked for something to drink and without question he brought her back a cold glass of apple juice. To her this meant that he could have brought her some water but he thought about what to bring her to make her happy to drink. I counterattacked with, “What if you didn’t like apple juice?” She was tongue-tied on that but continued to explain her newfound love.

Due to great sex, her vision was obviously crowded by emotion, which leads her to believe any act of kindness is a motive.

*Blank stare*

I will be the first to say that I believe in falling in love and cherishing a person forever. It’s not that I want to be a pessimistic friend, but I am someone who sees things for exactly what they are.

When you give your body to a man, the pressure of saying, “I wonder if he ...” should be officially off the table. Here is where I see the problem. As women we are quick to fall into our emotions with a man. In the same circumstances we fail to discuss the details of what we really want. Most of the time it’s not just sex. Some women may think if you are too up front that might scare a man off. I say let them run!  If honesty scares a man then why would you want him anyway?

A woman who is sure about what she wants is surely to get it faster than someone who is scared to say what they deserve. I’m not suggesting that a woman ask for a guy’s hand in marriage after the first date. What I am saying is that it’s wise to take the time with a guy before letting your emotions roar. 

Just take your time period.

Let the man know what you want and if he really likes you then he will be willing to give. If he only wants sex and you want more, push those hurt feelings aside and move on. At the end of the day as women we want that affection to be returned. You can try to play the “cool” lady who only wants to party and have sex but after a while more will be asked of you.

Don't be over impressed with that cold glass of apple juice. When the cup is dry then what?