Two Caring People And Because I Love Them

“I love two people. One comforts me and the other makes me despair like two spirits, both constantly point me in two different directions.” This is a saying I came across. We can say that about our dancing activities.  I love to dance and when I do, I become the second me. I am slim, graceful, ever smiling and quite happy. The first me is a senior now, not completely real slim, serious and interested in very intellectual aspects of life. When I dance, I am happy and delighted, when at other times, I am real serious and I write my articles to express my thoughts on life as it is today.

There are many people out there, even some in our family who thrive on trying to put us down and they say disparaging things to us, even though they act like they are saying it for our own good.

What they are really doing is trying to lift themselves up at our expense and make us feel not too happy at the moment whereas we, who are avid dancers can always find it in our heart to encourage and inspire new people into dancing and we compliment them and assure them that they are doing well and make them smile. When we give a simple pleasurable remark, we show that we are kind, caring, and compassionate and to encourage someone who is unsure of themselves is to compliment our self, that we are dear souls, who know how to enlighten others with our knowledge and decency.

Some people are like they are two people. One person is the pleasant person who comes off as being so decent and the other side of them is the repugnant individual who says what they think without decency and they believe it is proper to be that way. There is no need to be that way. Let them be two people, one who is kind, decent and approving and if necessary, the other one who is also the same who never hurts your feelings or says a nasty thought and who is happy if you attain something wonderful, even if they have not done that yet

.I know a very homely lady who has been married twice and divorced twice. She has the demeanor of a person who thinks highly of herself and she puts on this façade of being a very important person in her job and socially. Actually, she has a menial position, but to give her credit, she plays it up as if she is very highly skilled and when she talks to you, she is two people. One who she really is and the other who she wants to become. You can almost admire her because she really believes she is the second person and this keeps her happy.

I have a friend who was an assistant manager of a large business. He was treated in a very disrespectful manner by the higher up management even though everybody including the clients and the other employees knew he was quite honorable and efficient. He finally left and took what some might call a step or two down in that business world. The fabulous thing is that he is so mentally happy, smiles a lot and does not hate to go to work, because here now, he is treated with respect and confidence. When he leaves work after many long shifts, he is finished, he does not have to carry the burdens of his position home and do work at home and dislike the thought of returning to the job the next day.

He will live longer, be healthier and most of all he is more content. So the name of the position does not matter, it matters only that he is fulfilled in his new job and that is more of a bonus than a few extra dollars in his paycheck. So now, he is not two people, he is one person and both his social and business life makes him a satisfied person.

When I called the other day, to a credit card company to check on something on my bill that was not mine, the voice said press one for a customer care relationship person. This is a nice title for a person answering the phone to help you. Customer care relationship can be a nice slogan for all of us in life. Substitute the word customer to a word like delightful care relationship person and then we have a great individual in our life that is pleasant, caring and related to us by being a decent human being in all dealings with us, whether family, friends or casual acquaintances. Then you have two people, a caring one and a delightful one and we are the winners.

 I had an aunt like that. She was very short and very heavy. She had her dresses made to order for her and they were on the design of a wide dress called then in the forties and fifties a Mumu. It was very large and she thought it covered her rotund figure and that it hid it. She was happy wearing them and I got so use to see her wearing them; that I even believed as she did, that she looked lovely in them. They were her and she felt good wearing them and she felt they made her look pretty. You know what; she inspired people to look at her as if she was tall and slim. To me it was a gift she gave herself and that was OK.

Today I called Best Buys because I was looking for a new mouse. Oh how Mom despised the word mouse, she was not thrilled when I bought her a present when we were in Disney World of a coffee mug with Mickey’s picture on it. Perhaps in her youth, she had seen some real mice and this stayed with her. The very nice sales associate explained about the different mice, some with wires and some wireless. I chose to stay with my wire and I sent my buyer, my husband to purchase it.When he brought it home, it was too short and it would not reach the computer. So I called her back and she said bring it back and she would pick out a wireless one and she explained to me how to hook it up and I would love it.

My husband went and got it and I sent her a little bracelet for her kind help, caring and patience. Her name is Briana and she made quite an impression on me with our conversation and her sincere interest in me being able to use my computer. Best Buys in Owings Mills has a winner in her being a representative in their store and especially to someone trying to make a purchase with over the phone information.  She made my day with her pleasant manner and her caring attitude for a small sale costing only thirteen dollars.

A friend told me a story today about a not pleasant woman who said something to her at a school musical program where her very handsome blonde twin sons played a duet on two different pianos. At the end of the show, she was standing there with her best friend, a blonde with very long hair and a very lovely looking lady.  The not so pleasant woman who herself was not too good looking comes up to the lovely blonde and tells her how good looking the twins are and how well they played the pianos. She laughed and said they were her friends’ twins. She looked at my friend and said “they are yours?” She replied quickly “yes they are mine; my husband is tall, blonde and handsome.” She laughed about it telling it to me, it was an insult said by a non-thinking or kind person.

Dancing is like two people. One the inspiring soul and one who is inspired. May we always be galvanized and also encourage others to reach the peak of their ability, to motivate and to give rise to build their life to higher levels. Then, we will be two people, both of us reaching for the stars and being shining examples of goodness on this earth right now. We will be delightful, caring and related and the two people we use to be will be all in one important, helpful and content. Now, there is one spectacular individual and that will sustain us for our lifetime. We will be so ecstatic at our new accomplishment; we will be related to happiness. As little Ethan, when he was six years old  said one day when his mom asked him why he was so happy when Grammie (me) and Grandpa (Jerry) came to visit, he said “because I love them.” Because I love them can be our next slogan, because we are loved, we can return love to others.