'Should I Hang On to a Long Distance Relationship?' Go Ask Wally

NATICK, MA - He’s a bonafide Internet sensation, and probably the biggest bunny celebrity to hit social media. Wally the Bunny has 217,000 followers on Instagram,and he’s been featured in numerous media outlets, including People Magazine, CNN, Good Morning America and the Boston Globe.

Now, Wally (and Molly) assist and entertain Patch readers each week with the advice column “Go Ask Wally.” Each week, we’ll field questions from readers, and pick the most interesting one, with Wally answering one question each Monday on Natick Patch.

QUESTION: Hi Wally. I'm from Mexico and my English grammar is not the best, so I hope you understand. I've got this question: I have a boyfriend, who has been my boyfriend for three years, but one and a half years ago he left. We have been in a long distance relation since then. It's too hard for me and I want him close, but I'm really immature in so many ways...and he says he's afraid we'll have problems if we got married or go to live together. What could I do? Should I keep waiting? Or try to mature ... or what? I'm really sad ... I want him close and to hug him every day. Dreamer.

ANSWER: Hi, Dreamer. It’s ME, Wally! What a sad and difficult situation! If you haven’t read my advice to ADC, please do! Although your questions are not exactly the same, you will see that you are not alone in your struggle.

First, be sure that your boyfriend clearly explains the “problems” he fears you may have. Listen to and contemplate his perspective. Do you have similar concerns? Can these problems be improved or resolved? If you have a true desire to make this relationship work, you must know if he does as well. Ask him. Only consider “waiting” if his answer is “yes.” But, Dreamer? Waiting can be dull and dreary – like living in a thunderstorm with a broken umbrella! But before you buy a rain poncho, allow us to discuss this concept further.

“Waiting” is an interesting phenomenon. Sometimes when we wait, we become stuck and confined and fail to realize special opportunities! Imagine that you are a hermit crab. As a hermit crab matures, she outgrows her shell, leaves it behind, and inhabits a larger, more comfortable shell. Have you ever met Harriet Hermit Crab? She promised to wait for her boycrabfriend, Harold, when he spent his junior year abroad in a far-off ocean reef. She waited and waited, and when Harold returned, she realized that her antennae and belly … and other hermit crab body parts (pardon me, I’m rusty on my crab anatomy) were bursting out of her shell! She had waited with such dedication, that she didn’t realize how snug her shell had become! Dreamer? You must continue to experience the world of larger and shinier shells!

You discussed the idea of maturity in your question. I sense that you long to grow and mature and discover the most exquisite shell on the beach. To answer your question, “Should I keep waiting or try to mature?” … try to mature! But not for your boyfriend, for YOU, Dreamer. Go on! Be shellfish! (Get it? Shellfish … selfish.) What does “immature” mean to you, Dreamer? How would you like to change and transform so that you can describe yourself as “mature”? Map out these answers. Clarify your vision. Embark on a journey to find your perfect shell. If you dive into this adventure, your decision to wait or not wait will become clearer. Think of Harriet. She’s rooting for you!

Wally (and his mom) fields questions that range from life’s conflicts and local politics to social etiquette to general hygiene and fashion tips. If Wally thinks the question is beyond his scope of expertise, he will pass it to his administrative team.

So what say you? Have you a question for Wally? We will compile them here at Patch and feature one question and answer each week. Send your questions to charlene.arsenault@patch.com. Or post your query in the comments section.