Coping WIth Change

Some people love change and make changes in their lives often.

Others dread change and agonize over it. Most of us are somewhere in the middle, enjoying a certain amount of change, but not too much!

One change often seems to be followed by several more, until we might feel overwhelmed by the idea that our whole world is changing. Here are some tips to help cope with life changes

1) Be honest about feelings and reactions to change. Don’t criticize yourself for crying, laughing or moodiness. Emotions are normal when faced with changes, and even positive change can feel unsettling.

2) Allow yourself to grieve. Change, no matter how good it might be, means loss. When something in your life changes, you lose the old way of being.

3) Try not to deny that change is happening. Rigidity and resistance can cause additional suffering.

4) If the change is a big one, try to keep up with as many familiar things as you can. Stick to usual routines and see people you normally see when possible. Reassure yourself that not everything has to change just because some things have

5) When possible, divide bigger changes into smaller steps. For example, a house move, a wedding, or divorce involves several stages. To avoid feeling too overwhelmed by the enormity of the change, concentrate on the step you have reached instead of the bigger picture.

6) Try to make some positive meaning for yourself amidst painful losses and changes. It is through change that we often develop strength and wisdom.

7) New circumstances become familiar with time. Keep hope when you are in the midst of a difficult time

8) Do not try to cope alone or keep your feelings to yourself. Seek out support from friends, family, and professionals as needed. Asking for help is a sign of courage, not weakness.