Moms Talk: How Do You Talk To Kids About Tragedy?

In the wake of the earthquake in Japan, this week our Moms Council answered the following question: How should you talk to kids about tragedy?

 I find that using a frame of reference that kids understand helps put things in perspective.

I reminded our kids of last year when Waltham experienced a terrible rain storm that flooded roads and many homes. Our wet-vac was in constant use after a sump pump malfunction and the basement play area was off limits. Some sentimental items had to be thrown away. The roads in our neighborhood were closed and repaired for months.

Comparing that to the devastation people in Japan experienced made them realize just how much of a hardship that country is currently facing  and will be for a very long time. 

 It can be challenging to figure out how to explain tragic events to small children. I believe in being honest with them, and telling them in simple terms the basics of what has happened. Choosing your words carefully and making sure they know they are safe is important.

I would not let small children watch TV coverage, as the news is broadcast in a very in-your-face style, replaying the same images over and over, and this could be confusing and more disturbing for children than adults.

If you feel upset or sad by something you've seen, let them know you are sad and that it is okay to feel that way sometimes, but again make sure they know they are cared for and protected.