I for INSIGHT – Insight is: perceptiveness; the ability to see clearly and intuitively into the nature of a complex person, situation, or subject (Encarta Dictionary Online). Some might call it intuition or critical thinking. It is quite easy to go through repeated pain, difficulty, and failure without learning anything new. Having insight requires taking time to think about what we might have done to contribute to our negative circumstances, and then considering how to do things differently.
L for LOVE – This may seem a little strange, but you must learn to love (accept and celebrate) yourself and allow others to do the same. Respectively, experiencing love does a couple of things: 1) Causes you to value yourself and not ultimately settle for sloppy living or a life less than your potential, and 2) It allows you to feel comfort, knowing that you are not alone and if you fall others will be there to help.
I for INTIMACY – By this I mean intimate communication. You can have safe people in your life, spend time with and listen to them, and even carry out some of the things they say, but if you are holding back from sharing the true nature of your hurt or behavior because of fear or shame, then you will remain in your negative circumstances. This is about being real and being transparent. No lasting healing or change can happen without it.
Marius Massie
www.revolutionaryculture.com
Marius Massie is a former bullying target and abuse survivor who speaks to teen and adult audiences about the power of vision and how parents can beat the odds and become the most influential force in their children's lives. Questions? Contact 612-547-9160.
