Easing the Transition for Back to School

A new school year means a lot of change in a child’s life. Since many families struggle with change, Fraser staff, who work with school-age children, share their top tips for easing the transition.

Prepare

· Talk with your child about how their days will change, making sure that you focus on concrete things, i.e. waking up early, leaving the house, new friends and activities

· Prepare a visual schedule so that they know what their school days will look like

· Start your new night and morning routines two weeks prior to the first day of school

· Prepare your child for a new teacher and staff using photos available online

· Read books or articles about starting a new school or being the new student which will inspire conversations about their own feelings

· Be sure to attend any open houses, or even better, set up a time for you and your child to meet with his/her new teachers

First Day

· Let them make choices like what they will wear and what toys they will bring

· Be positive about the first day, even if you are nervous

· Arrive early so your child has time to get settled and connect with their teachers before other students arrive

Every Day

· Keep a regular schedule

· Prepare a visual schedule for morning and night routines so your child knows what they need to do

· Set aside 15 minutes every day to check in with your child, making sure to cover the big topics, friends and schoolwork

· If your child resists these conversations, make it easier to handle by setting a timer or limiting yourself to a set number of questions.

Especially for Teens

“Transitioning into middle school or high school can cause a great deal of anxiety for teens,” said Chris Wlaschin who works with teens as the supervisor of Fraser Adolescent Day Treatment. He recommends talking with your teen calmly and realistically about the increased social and academic expectations they will be experiencing.

Let your child know that this is part of learning.

Be supportive by assuring them, “It’s okay to be challenged,” or “I know you’re ready for this change,” or “we will be there with you every step of the way.”

Fraser is Minnesota’s largest and most experienced provider of autism services. Fraser provides services for mental health and other developmental disabilities for children and adults with special needs through healthcare, education, and housing. For more information, call 612-861-1688 or visit www.fraser.org.