From Proposal to Wedding Day: the moment of saying “I do”

There’s only a few wedding vendors that are your voice during your big day: your DJ and your officiant. That’s why it is very important to choose someone that you trust, feel confident about and someone who represents you and your beliefs.

All you need in the eyes of the law to be legally married is the two of you and an officiant. Anyone can become an officiant. There’s no officiants collage or a certification. That’s why it is very important to do your research, get references, check out wedding blogs but most importantly see wedding videos of the officiant performing a ceremony. That’s really the only way to judge someone’s style and eloquence.

Some questions to ask:

How long have they been doing this?

How many weddings do they officate a year?

What are their fees? Does that include initial meeting? Rehearsal?

Do they wear officiant’s robes or a civilian garb?

Will they write personalized ceremony/vows?

You might be able to save some money if you opt out of a rehearsal and do follow up video/phone conferences instead of an in-person meeting.

Since the raise of the internet and ease of getting ordained on line, a lot of Pumpkin Coach Events Brides choose their family members or friends to marry them. It is definitely a very special touch to have someone dear to you to be included in the ceremony. However there are some extra steps you’ll have to take to ensure that everything goes smoothly. Your family member or friend will definitely represent you better to your wedding crowd, but more often than not it will be their first time doing this and most likely they will have no clue of the verbiage, traditions or order of the ceremony. You’ll have to be more present and take initiative in creating your own ceremony. Also, you will need to make sure that all legal requirements have been met, that your friend has been ordained and in some instances registered with the state that you are getting married in. (You need to be a minister of some faith in order to be able to legally marry someone. One very popular choice is The Universal Life Church where you can get ordained on line for free-you pay a small fee if you want a certificate to be mailed to you-www.themonastery.org) And once you say your I-do’s, you’ll have to make sure that your freshly minted minister follows through and mails the marriage license to the proper place in order to be valid and executed.

In my next blog let’s talk about other aspects of the ceremony-music-décor-special touches. In the meantime – happy wedding planning!