8 TIps on How to Cope with Divorce During the Holidays

'Tis the season to be jolly…..or is it?

The holidays can be a very stressful few weeks for many with "time crunch" and family visits on the top the list.

For families newly separated or divorced, there is an extra layer of emotion. 

Children share time with each parent, which can double the stress. While children usually attend the same family functions, the other parent will not.

This is not only stressful for the parent but children also mourn the loss.

What’s a parent to do?

Here are some tips that will help:

1. Plan ahead so that everyone knows what to expect.

2. Begin a new tradition. This will acknowledge that the family is changing but will be okay.

3. Get your children’s input. Listen to what they want to do. They need to be heard and the parent(s) need to listen.

4. Simplify your gift giving.

5. Give the gift of time. Plan to have each child pick an activity of their choice to do alone with you. 

6. Plan activities for yourself for the time your children are with the other parent. Have dinner with a friend or take in a holiday event. 

7. Remember your pain will pass. Life is about change and we all have the capacity to adapt. Give it time.

8. Be grateful for the blessings that you do have each and every day. Look forward to the new year and allow 2014 to bring a fresh, new start.

Wishing you a happy holiday season full of new traditions and bountiful memories!

Happy Holidays!

Madeline