Being a Good Role Model
Think about how much time you spend working for external success and a higher standard of living (note that I said too much time.) Your children notice your demeanor which then becomes the pattern for their values. You can tell your teen all about not being materialistic but if he sees it is important to you he will gravitate towards it. Are you guilty of trying to keep up with the Joneses? Do you give in to your child’s whims to have the latest and best of everything so they will not feel “left out?” If you are already giving your kids everything think of the example you are setting. Remember children learn more from the behavior we model than from our well-meaning lectures. I am not saying you should not like and want nice things. Teach your child that it is okay to want something nice and work hard to earn it, but not too hard that you lose your perspective of the important things in life, such as quality family time, being fair and not stepping on anyone’s toes to get to where you want to go.
Important Notice: The information presented above is provided for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for consulting a psychologist or other mental health professional to discuss your unique situation. If you would like to talk with me about it, you may call my office at 914-329-5355.
