Stop Apologizing To Me!

It is a truth universally known that a couple who is married and in their thirties are in want of a baby. Unless- that is- they don’t. It is more and more common these days to see couples trotting around baby less and happy- and I want you to know, there is no need to apologize about it. I cannot tell you how many times a week I talk to my single friends and they are complaining about these kids crying in the restaurant, or baby vomit on the beach- and they say these six words “I just do not want kids” followed with an immediate apology to me- the one person in their age group that has a child. That statement usually follows with a roll of my eyes and a “oh shut up” but honestly it makes me wonder what makes them feel like they have to apologize to me? Is it simply because I pro-created, or is it because I enjoy motherhood so much? Either way it needs to stop, everyone chooses the path that their lives will go on. Our decisions may be different, but I do not judge you for not following the crowd. You are an adult that can decide what kind of life you want to lead. If you want a kid have one- if you do not, then do not feel the need to apologize- especially to me because honestly I feel ya.

Do not get me wrong, I have wanted to be a mother since I was five years old. People would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up and I would answer “Mommy”. There is something in my brain that has always made me feel like if I did not have a child I would not be complete. So having my son five years ago was the highpoint of my life thus far (I mean marrying his father was ok and everything). I had finally served my purpose in this world, and I am enjoying every minute of raising this little monster that we created. However, parenting is not just all Pinterest crafts, and cuddling. You need to like- keep the kid alive and all that jazz. Plus, there is the notion that you want your child to be a good person- and not one of those douchebag kids you went to high school with- so you have to try and instill morals and respectability in a five-foot sociopath on top of everything else. All while keeping yourself sane, cleaning, cooking, working and occasionally going out and having a good time kid free. I can see why any married couple would take a vacation to Greece in lieu of that responsibility. While you guys are buying awesome tickets to concerts, I am drafting a financial plan for the braces I know my kid will need in ten years’ time. I’ll get to try out that brand new restaurant a month after everyone else because I am too busy working, trying to keep the house in a somewhat livable condition whilst making sure that the kid is doing that horrid packet of common core nonsense- oh yea I am also taking classes so I can understand what the Fu*k my kid is learning in school so I can help him with his homework. “Yea me.” She says in a none existent enthusiastic tone.

Spontaneity has gone to the sideline- never to be seen again until I am a golden girl. I have to set an appointment to have a romantic evening with my husband,.....Read More