Student Life | College Relationships: Bond Chemistry

What is love?  By definition it can mean: “an intense feeling of deep affection.”   But how can a simple phrase define such an “infinite”, or rather the “intense” feeling to describe a pair’s chemistry?  The real question lies whether the bond between you and your significant other is intense enough to “stick together” as the high school year ends while one, or perhaps even both lovers transition to a college life.

In my opinion, the hardest relationships are the romantic, and even the spontaneous duos that try to continue their “love” as one or even both lovers stray into colleges keeping one thing in mind – staying together – with the hope of nothing less.

In essence, colleges commonly have “obstacles” that affect the “love” a couple has on one another by creating inflection points in their faithfulness that start undergoing a process that can, and possibly begin to lure them away from their significant other.  But what exactly are these “obstacles” that can split the couple in two?

Distance is imperative.  Regardless of how clear the video you send and receive when using Skype, or the miraculous number of dropped calls you don’t achieve when calling your “boo” doesn’t make up for the physical connection a couple can experience simply just being next to one another.

Technology may be advancing by “connecting” each person to what is now known as a “global network”, but ultimately fails to advance a rather now stagnant, long-distance relationship even further to where a couple left off.  No matter how socially conservative or liberal you or your significant other is, how much routine can a person take until those once exciting Skype video calls or once stimulating phone chats become as regular and repetitive as your least productive professor’s lectures?

To be honest, even the phrase “I love you” could become a cliché that no one likes to admit.  Love isn’t forever and distance isn’t helping its cause.  How many times can you say, “I love you” through the phone hoping to hear it back?  However, distance can sometimes be a good catalyst in order to find how strong the relationship stands without the physical attraction.  

Physical attraction kills.  Loneliness in addition to these feelings could ultimately equal the “irrational” solution of cheating -- but can cheating show a person’s colors of maturity?

Humans are territorial; they want what they can’t have.  When adding that statement to a cheating equation, examine the big picture – a college campus, regardless of the size or even location, thousands among ten thousands if not all students are sexually driven, which increases the probability of cheating while modesty along with clothes get thrown out the window.

The theme of diversity seems to be popular amongst colleges nowadays as well. Now picture the amount of social connections your “lovers” would be making in order to diversify themselves with what the college has to offer.  If anything, it isn’t your “lover’s” fault they cheated, but rather their college’s fault for the amount of overexposure resulting in a diverse amount of unintentional “chemistry” clashes with those never though possible.

But the point is not to blame your beloved university for many of the relationships broken.  After all it is college.  College is the place where you can head-on make decisions based on trial and error in order to find out who you really are.  You’re supposed to receive a higher education while learning from the mistakes you’ve made as you venture your way into maturity.

As a graduating high school senior currently in a relationship and hoping to continue to be in that relationship through college, these are the “obstacles” I may have to overcome in order to keep the chemistry alive with my significant other... while also trying to pass Chemistry.