The heart of a child is found in the security of his/her mother and father. Research conducted by The University of Dartmouth Medical School along with a team of pediatricians and neuroscientists found that “a baby’s brain is biologically already formed to connect in relationships”. Certainly, parental attachment is one the first individual relationships a child experiences. However, the model of the love that mom and dad share with each other is the first connected relationship a child observes.
Security and identity are formed as children experience the atmosphere of love and respect shared by the two most relational influences of their lives, their parents. They are secure in the marriage covenant relationship shared by their parents. Children are conceived, born, reared and blessed within the spiritual protection of covenant. Children are blessed as a result of a stable covenant marriage in which children see, hear, and experience the security of mom and dad’s love towards each other and in turn, towards them.
The relationship they observe in their parents, models for them the most basic and intimate understanding of relationships. The most important relationships, husband and wife, as well as father and mother, influence the relational DNA of children. Children learn about future relationships by observing their parents. It is that simple. Studies have shown that even before birth, children respond to the voice and “atmosphere” established by their parents. Relational blessing into their lives begins at conception, through pregnancy, at birth and through all stages of childhood. By witnessing the love shared between mom and dad, they are equipped to step into their own relationships.
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Perhaps I could go out on a limb and infer when Paul says; “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. [Eph 6:4] Love their mother and so extend security for them. It could be actions that convey love to the next generation.
