In the Bible, forgiveness is certainly a prominent theme and something Jesus commands us all to do. Therefore, it’s an essential concept we must teach our children. Yet, the act of forgiving does not come easy for most of us. Far too often, our natural instinct is to hold grudges against those who have wronged us. However, choosing forgiveness over anger and resentment is liberating and ultimately brings us closer to God and to one another. So, how can we teach this important concept to our children?
Reflect Upon the Forgiveness Offered to Us Through Jesus
Understanding and accepting the fact that Jesus paid the ultimate price for our sins on the cross so that we might have a relationship with God, repenting of our sins and accepting the forgiveness offered to us, allows us to develop an “attitude of forgiveness”. That change in attitude enables us to change our behavior towards others.
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“For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 NIV
Teach Children that Forgiveness is Something Jesus Commands Us to Do
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The best reason to forgive is because Jesus commanded us to forgive. We learn from Scripture that if we don't forgive, we will not be forgiven.
“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14-16 NIV
Demonstrate Forgiveness to Our Children
When our children hurt us in some way, we must offer forgiveness rather than turning away, no matter how hard it may be at the time. (Keep in mind that offering forgiveness is not the same thing as excusing bad behavior. It merely creates a healthy atmosphere for discussing and fixing that behavior.)
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32 NIV
Teach Children the Consequences of Choosing Not to Forgive
We should help our children understand that holding onto hurt, anger and resentment hinders us from connecting with God and may even take a toll on our physical health. While on the other hand, forgiveness releases us from heavy burdens and brings us closer to God and to each other.
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13 NIV
References:
Fairchild, M. (n.d.) What does the Bible Say About Forgiveness? [Blog post]. Retrieved from: http://christianity.about.com/od/whatdoesthebiblesay/a/bibleforgivenes.htm
Schlauch, K. (2016, March 8). Christian Parenting Tips: Teaching Forgiveness. [Blog post]. Retrieved from: http://www.libertychristianschoolmd.com/blog
