Love 101: Investment

I often say to clients and friends that perhaps their professional lives could parallel their personal life to some degree. Then, one’s own love advice would be easier to receive. 

First of all, my personal relationship is an extension of my business relationships. I desire for my partner to be respected, heard and validated without compromising the core of my being. I defer to this same statement to not only expand upon the perspective of my personal life but to quantify what an investment means for one’s love language. We have all at times proclaimed what I call our love euphemisms. I loved her/him so much that… you fill in the blank. Or, I sacrificed so much that… you continue to fill in the blank. 

The first important aspect to realize is that you are your own certifiable IPO (Initial Public Offering). Your IPO is your first sale of stock to the public from your company. And you my friends are the primary stakeholders in your own love, peace, and prosperity. So, how and what do you propose to the one that you wish to invest your time and energy into in light of an investment for your love?  My answer is to remember that your intellectual property should be protected. This intellectual property that I speak of are your exclusive rights to the identity that you have created by your mind under your own set of laws.  The ultimate deciding court of law in this matter is your heart. 

When you come to the realization of what your investment means to you, then you must strategize.  Strategizing how you would like to invest your time and love is key. Here are some factors that influence our strategies to investing in love that relate to this topic.  1) We tend to be attracted to people who appear to possess qualities we think we lack.
 2)  People tend to fall in love with people who have qualities of one or both or our parents. This occurs for purposes of healing past hurts, affirming ourselves and furthering self-knowledge. The more self-awareness we have, the more we can make healthy choices about which attractions we want to build on and which we want to let go.

So once you have found a basis for your investment strategy for love, come to your relationships as a person ready to take risks in this world. Be selective so that you don’t choose too hastily or make the wrong selections. Feel free to experiment - try it, take a chance but also know you’re allowed to say no, thank you, this doesn’t suit me.  In the words of C.S. Lewis “There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable.” 

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