Why is it that when something bad happens to us or someone does something that hurts us we have this need to be justified? In my education on improving the self, I have learned that ego is in charge of this need. When something negative happens it is like an alarm going off for our ego. Our ego yells, "OMG! Did you see that? Did you feel that? It's time to get even!" Maybe your ego doesn't want to get even and is more like, "Their criticism is correct. I need to beat myself up now. I regret this and that. I wish I would have done this or that" and so on. Ego is evil. And because we cannot get rid of it we have to deal with it our entire lives. Ever have those repetitive thoughts after an argument where it goes on and on in your head? How about when you look in the mirror and point out everything you hate about yourself. That's ego. Our higher-self would never beat us up, have regrets, or need to be justified. Our higher-self just wants to show and feel love for ourselves and the world. But most of us cannot even hear it.
Every morning when I wake up I state, "I am so thankful now that my ego is silent." I do this knowing that I am starting the day listening to my higher-self. If ego creeps in, I say it again.
Trying to get even is negative. It does no good to anyone except makes our ego feel better and justified. And if you can remember that what we give is what we get, you will want to remember that giving love and light is best so that is what we are attracting back to ourselves. No matter how angry you are, you can decide to allow ego to control your decisions and emotions OR you can take a deep breath and realize that this is not who you are. This is your ego. Send love and light!!
A few ways this has worked for my clients and for myself.....
A client of mine felt pressured into purchasing a home with someone that he had concerns about. He didn't want to get locked into to something in which his gut feelings were telling him was a bad situation. He also didn't want to confront this person because he was avoiding a confrontation. I had asked him to take a few moments that night and close his eyes. Set the intention that all will work out for the highest good. I told him to picture this woman surrounded by white light which was projected from his heart. I told him to hold this vision with the feeling of love and gratitude until he felt he was done. 12 hours later he called to tell me that she came to him and said that she no longer wanted to purchase this house or any house with him. He was so shocked and very grateful.
For me, in the heat of an argument with someone who never apologizes, I sent love and light to them and asked God and the angels to take away his anger. Within 5 minutes my cell phone rang and it was him. He had called to apologize.
When we stop allowing ego to take control, we can get the most positive outcome of every situation. The feeling you get will be much more justifying than you can ever imagine. Why? Because it will be positive.
We are all here to learn lessons which means we will all do hurtful things and say hurtful things. We will all get into negative situations at some point. It is all how you react which will attract what kind of outcome you will receive. Let everyone learn their lessons and you continue to learn yours. Send love and light to everyone and everything. Soon you will be projecting that light onto everyone and attracting all positive people and situations into your life.
Love and light!
Amy