'The Man-Eater' Springfield- A Long Way from 'Sex and the City'

The Man-Eater

Single Strategies Part II (Continued from The Single Strategies)

Okay, so maybe my first strategy didn’t work out as planned. Besides I had begun to realize that my “ice queen strategy” was too much like the lifestyle I was trying so hard to avoid. I was already fighting against myself not to be miserable, so I couldn’t very well revert back to it already. 

My next plan of attack?

Well I decided to give up on one strategy to work on another.

This new strategy was called the man-eater strategy. While this strategy is a bit like the ice queen strategy it differs in the fact that it’s not so cold (no pun intended.) At the same time, let’s not confuse the man-eater strategy with being a promiscuous party girl, because that’s not what I was going for either. I guess you could say that the strategy of the man-eater lies somewhere appropriately placed between the two.

The man-eater, she’s the woman who knows what she wants and works to get it. She knows how to work a man by pulling him in and basically using what she can. This is the man-eaters prime defense mechanism. Because like the ice queen the man-eater has also had her heart broken at one point in time and, instead of taking the approach of a bitter b*tch, she decides to have her cake and eat it too.

The man-eater is more or less the female version of a player. She craves the attention from the opposite sex and once she gets what she wants, she moves on to the next item in the buffet. Case and point, the word commitment is not in this woman’s vocabulary.

So, I tried this. Now I’d like to consider myself nowhere near conceited but I’m aware that I am not a terrible looking woman so I went with it, and worked it good.

When I went out with girlfriends, I gave the strong eye contact, a few giggles and all of the other flirtatious feminine hooks that make a man think that you’re SOOO into him. But needless to say, I eventually failed with this strategy as well. While it’s fun to be a flirt sometimes, I don’t find myself being the type of person who can handle a lifestyle such as this. I guess you could say that I care too much about others' feelings. And honestly, it requires too much damn work to keep up the “game” of playing hard to get and keeping tabs on more than one man. Honestly, I don’t know how men do it.

There I was, again, frustrated and still teetering along the lines of heartbroken and angry. But I didn’t want to give up, just yet. I felt like I had already made a little bit of progress. After all, for the first time in months it seemed that I was able to get out of bed everyday and my ice cream addiction was finally dwindling. So then I thought, maybe I should try a different strategy, one that I was once familiar with, the strategy of just being myself.