Why Is Change So Hard?

“Why can’t I stop doing this?  I know what I should do, but…” This is something I hear everyday from my clients.  In fact, I often heard myself asking this question!  There are many layers to this question.

You are creatures of habit.

It is not easy to break habits and patterns.  Some have been ingrained in you for a lifetime.  Everyone has a physiological and energetic level of comfort for what they know.  Even if at some level you want to change, at another level you are comfortable with what feels right to you.  That is why people get into relationships with the same type of people over and over again.  At an unconscious level this is what feels normal or comfortable, even though consciously it is unwelcome.

You are unconsciously triggered.

When you suffer a disappointment or losses at a young age or your needs were not met, and you have not cleared or healed them, you will find that situations, people, or words may trigger you.  Often you don’t know why or realize what’s happening.  One of my clients discovered that when her husband responded to her in a certain way, it subconsciously triggered a memory from her teenage years when her parents reproached her harshly for not living up to their expectations in a contest.  When we cleared that wounding, her husband no longer triggered her.

There is an emotional connection.

Sometimes there is an emotional connection to a person or time in your life.  The other day I helped a client see that her craving for unhealthy carbohydrates helped her relive the feeling of safety and warmth she associated with her grandmother.  Since there was such a positive emotional connection of which she was unaware, it was impossible for her to stop those cravings and desires for foods she knew were making her feel unhealthy.

There is a benefit or it is serving you in some way.

Often we have no conscious awareness that we are actually benefitting by the very thing we wish to change.   I helped another who was often sick, see that although she wanted to feel healthy, she received a lot of fussing and attention from her husband when she did not feel well.  This was the most positive attention she received, so there was a part of her that did not want to lose that.  So once we cleared that belief and benefit, she began to create a different relationship with her husband that is much more rewarding.

There us an upper limit ceiling.

Everyone has a limit to which they feel they can be happy, healthy, loved, or abundant.  Did you ever hear yourself saying, things are going too well and you are waiting for something to go wrong?  Unconsciously you have a belief that things can only be so good or smooth or right in your life.

I always encourage you to begin asking questions.  See what pops up for you, and see where you can begin to let go of the energy that is feeding your unconscious thoughts, responses, and reactions.  You can make changes in your life with ease when your conscious mind and unconscious mind are in alignment.

Tapping, (EFT)is a great way to access the unconscious and clear the energy of emotions associated with experiences in your life that are keeping you stuck or held hostage from making changes.

Energy healing is also another way.  When you work with a healer who can access the information in your energy system and clear it for you, you experience more space and comfort to change things up.

If you want to discover for yourself the power of energy work including EFT and chakra healing, feel free to contact me.