This Time It Was Not My Fault

Okay, I know that a great many of you already think that I'm some sort of moron.  But that is not the case. I'm just a guy. And let's the face facts — MEN MAKE MISTAKES. We are known for it. However, just yesterday that wonderful woman I wrote about, who is as close a friend to me as any friend could get, became so upset with me that she wanted to end our friendship.

Why did she want to end our friendship? Because of one sentence in an e-mail that she had erased that I supposedly had written, don't remember writing and do not have in my computers as an "e-mail sent". She didn't know what the sentence meant and neither did I when I read it in the e-mail that she sent to me demanding to know what it meant.

Does this sound logical to you? It doesn't to me. I didn't blame either one of us, though. I place the blame on the shoulders of technology. What I mean is that when you type something and then e-mail it (or in this case, blog it), your true feelings don't get through. If this had been a telephone conversation, we would have heard the inflections and tones in each others' voices. If we were face-to-face, then she could and would have asked me right then and there, "What do you mean by that?".

Instead, she deleted the e-mail, so now she cannot show me the e-mail and I, being the idiot that I am, can not find it in my archives. And I did look.

But that is the real problem with society today. People are so bent on getting the newest techno-gadget so that they can "communicate" better, that they have forgotten how to actually communicate. Luckily, for me and my friend, she called me this morning and we worked everything out — on the telephone. I have been telling people this for the past 25 years and no one seems to care to listen: Our dependence on computers will end up being the downfall of our country.

Thankfully, though, my friend called me and we made up. It turned out that we were both having bad days and needed someone to vent our frustrations on. For that, we have each other. Hopefully every one of you has a someone in your life who you can call a "true friend".

A true friend isn't made in just one day. A true friend is someone you can always rely upon, who is always there for you — no matter what is wrong, and you are there for him/her. You don't care what your true friend looks like, does for a living, dresses like or anything else.  All you care about is that your true friend is available to you when you need him/her. If he/she can't be bothered to return your calls or to listen to you when you're down, then that person isn't a true friend. That person is an acquaintance.  I was taught that you'll only find maybe three true friends in your lifetime. The older I get, the more true that seems to be.

I hope that all of you treasure your true friends. Don't "text" them that you're too busy to come over. Go there — right away. You never know when they need you.

Good luck everybody. I hope all of you have found at least one true friend.