Being a caregiver can be emotionally and physically challenging even under the best of circumstances. Support groups can provide great comfort.
In a support group, members can compare experiences, and share strategies for managing behaviors. In a support group, members can support each other even when they don't agree. Agreement and support are often confused. Support doesn't require agreement, but it does require respect.
A successful support group doesn't have to be big. It can be any size. But there are inportant elements to look for: there should be a caring atmosphere that promotes trust between the group members, there should be confidentiality--- information shared in the group stays within the group and goes no further. Support groups should also offer advice and information regarding resources and coping mechanisms.
Of course, some caregivers are reluctant to join a support group. Some caregivers feel uncomfortable speaking in groups. Some feel they are "doing fine" and do not need any help. Some feel that what happens at home is "nobody's business". Still others feel they don't have the time to attend support group when they are so busy taking care of their loved one.
All are legitimate feelings.
Attending a support group doesn't mean that a caregiver has to "wear their heart on their sleeve". There is no requirement that states a caregiver has to speak. Listening though is important and a caregiver may gain new perspective from other members experiences.
And while a caegiver may be "doing fine" now, will that continue? Support Groups can offer suggestions regarding coping mechanisms so the caregiver can continue doing well.
As previously stated, all support groups have a strict "confidentiality rule". The caregiver is assured that their concerns will not be shared with anyone outside the group.
There are also support groups that are held at locations that offer care-recipient activities in another room while the group is taking place.
Online support groups have become increasingly popular. Research has found that online support groups offer the same positive effects as in person groups when it comes to emotional support.
All caregivers can benefit from talking to others in similar situations. A support group is an a valuable resource. Sometimes it is the only place where it is possible to disagree yet remain supportive. And sometimes it is the only place where it is possible to "laugh tears" without having to explain why.
Victorian Garden Adult Day Center helps to facilitate two groups:
Evening:
The 3rd Wednesday of each month, 7pm to 9pm at Victorian Garden, 353 Main Street in Chatham
Men Only:
The 1st Thursday of each month, 7pm to 9pm at 95 Madison Avenue,
Suite B6, Morristown.
***There is also a Memory Enrichment Group held twice a month on Wednesdays at 11 am at Victorian Garden. This group is for Younger Onset Alzheimer's Clients.
For more information on the above groups or how you can find a support group in your area, please call Victorian Garden Adult Day Center at
973-635-2266 and we will be happy to assist you.
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