Messing Around With a Married Woman is Nothing But Trouble

Dear Lizzie,

I am 29 and I live by myself in an apartment building.

There’s a married woman that frequents the bar I go to often. We flirt whenever we are out.

She doesn’t live in the area; she has a girlfriend that does live around my area, and they have a “Girls Night Out.” That is how we met.

This woman has a young daughter, and her husband works during the day.

She is gorgeous, and I love being around her.

I don’t think her husband has any idea of our flirtations, but she told me she would cheat on her husband.

This is very tempting. What do you think?

– Lucky Man, Upper Dublin

Dear Lucky,

There’s no luck here! No way is this going to turn out in a positive situation. She’s married and that comes with a big sign: Hands Off.

Maybe she’s not in love with her husband, but it’s nothing for you to be involved in.

My advice: I wouldn’t go to the bar anymore. I would try to avoid it at all costs, or at least not go to the bar when you know she will be there.

You are 29 years old. Go find a single, pretty lady to be with and date. There's a better and safer potential for a solid relationship.

Think about her daughter. How would she feel to know her mother was cheating on her father? The daughter would be devastated, and it could be the start to many problems in her life.

If this woman leaves her husband, and you absolutely know she divorced him, and you see physical proof, then go for it.

Otherwise, it’s more trouble than it’s worth.

Dear Lizzie,

My long-time boyfriend (four years) got a job promotion in his company. This means more money, of course, and better perks.

It also means relocation. The job is two states away.

We talk about getting engaged soon, and I don’t have worries that it won’t happen.

The problem is my parents and even my two sisters don’t like him. My family thinks he is controlling, just because I don’t spend as much time with them as I did before.

They think I shouldn’t move away with him. I think they are scared of me ruining my life.

Should I go with him and risk it? I know my family will be upset with me, but I’m an adult.

– Risky Business, North Wales

Dear Risky,

It sounds like you’re happy with this man, and you want to be with him. I say go for it.

There’s nothing wrong with taking a risk and living life. See how it works out. You never know.

You need to start your own life, and your parents, sisters and whoever else need to understand that.

Eventually, they will learn you grow into an adult to make your own life. Hopefully, that life has marriage and children in the future. Then, they will be happy with this guy.

It doesn’t mean you’ll never see them again. Getting older and changing is hard to accept—especially with family members.

This is your life you are leading. It doesn’t mean you’ve written off home forever.

Live in the moment.

I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you make a wonderful family of your own.

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