A Sinner's Lent Day 8: Mother Knows Best?

Last weekend, my mom got on my case about the fact that I don’t stay in touch with most of my high school friends.

We were very close in high school, and we just fell out of touch after college.  And by ‘we,’ I mean them and me.  They are all close (well, except for one, who I am still friendly with) – but we have no relationship.

I’m not particularly sad about it; I made best friends in college, I talk to them regularly, I am close with my family – I’m not at a loss for friends, per say.  But, in the spirit of Lent, it got me thinking.

I don’t remember what caused the demise of my relationship. The person in the group I was least close to when to my college, and we never really clicked while there. We joined competing sororities … we fell apart as friends. Maybe she got the other friends in the anti-climactic divorce. We got new phones, we lost old numbers…and now we’re just distant Facebook friends passing in the night.

However, I can’t help but think maybe there was more than that. Maybe I didn’t put effort in to staying in touch? I know I had my jerky moments in college, maybe there was something specific that I did to cause a breach that couldn’t be mended? I have no idea what it could be … but, thanks to my Mom, I’ve been thinking about it.

So, being the mother-pleaser that I am (my mom is pretty cool, you would want to make her happy too), and it being Lent, part of me wants to reconnect with these friends to some level. But that seems like a tall order. We’ve barely communicated in the past ten years. Getting back in touch now is borderline creepy. 

Not sure how I would do it … congratulations on the new baby. Need a babysitter? Oh...by the way, why did we stop talking?

Maybe I’ll just focus on not cursing.