Be A Good Person

This article is about someone who told me I should write to encourage people to make wills or let it be known that when they get hooked up to a life saving machine, they want to probably have the machines to be shut down. My own mother was not on life saving machines, but at Johns Hopkins 32 years ago , they told my brother and I to ask if she wanted it turned off, if on it. They wanted a verbal answer and I guess they would write it down on her chart. I told my brother it was his job to do that, I would have no part of asking her. So he did, and she, who had her right mind and was able and articulate to the very last moment which came around 10 weeks later, said no she wanted to stay on them if ever on them. We of course, would abide by her wishes, She was not hooked up because she did not need it and died peacefully about 3 months later. I told this person who told me to talk about this in articles and I said I am not qualified to do this. He is in the insurance business and it is, I guess, able to advise people for their policies or whatever and to talk of course to their lawyers on this. Now let's talk about things I am an "expert" in. This is ballroom dancing, ballroom dance competitions, being a grandmother and being a mensh (good person). I have a friend who works in Dundalk at a medical office and one of the assistants to the dentist has been harassing her for 5 years now and when she was confronted about this by my friend; said when this one got the job, her best friend was up for it and the dentist chose my friend. So she has continually continued to harasses her still and the dentist knows about it and calls the other one down. HIs excuse is that she has been with him for 20 years and so he feels loyalty to her, Wow, what a response. So the other one still works there and takes the verbal abuse and she needs the money.This is verbal bullying of the first order. When I worked and this is over 55 years ago; the boss did not verbally insult anyone. In fact,he went out of his way to be very nice. If someone needed some spare dollars and could not wait until payday, which was every Friday in cash, he would loan them the money and they paid it back to him in cash as soon as possible. Sometimes, he let them pay it back in several payments and this was because the man or lady was a devoted worker and he felt their pain which was nice of him. When he bought a new car, a Kaiser, which was a high priced car, he drove his old one to work and let his wife have the new one. He did not want the employees to see his new car and to feel envious. Verbal abuse in the workplace cannot be stopped pulling a plug. It has to be stopped by the employer or manager. When you call to Verizon, JC Penney, Kohls, Walmart, all of their employees are particularly friendly and polite is the word. They overwhelm you with their kindness and this perhaps is in their employee manual on how to treat the customer or client. Perhaps, their should be in the employee manual, a chapter on how to treat your fellow worker. I am not an employer, but when we had our pharmacy for 23 years, the employees from the janitor to the rest of the workers were treated with a smile, a joke, and a warm atmosphere. I was treated professionally when I was the office manager for 8 years at a firm. If I saw something wrong out in the plant, I told the owner/CEO my thoughts and as a 18 year old when I came to 26 when I left, he always listened to me and especially as I got wiser as the years went by. He listened to me when I advised him to hire a fellow for the plant and he did not want to hire him and I said why? He said because he will leave when he gets a better job. I , as about 21 years of age then , said give him a chance and he did and he stayed on for 40 years. He also introduced to me his jerky friend who I did not like, but that one gave my husband my phone number and the rest is history encompassing 55 years of our marriage. So sometimes, a young person like me saw things and I enhanced the lives of some of the employees , looking out for them and speaking to the boss about them; mostly positively and he was an 'old man' to me, of about late thirties. So I spoke up for them and for the company and there was no harassing there at all. Mother used to say "if you cannot say something nice, say nothing at all." I always listened to my mom because she was wise herself. I could not be in politics because I would find it difficult to say bad things, even if true, of the other person which in politics that is why it is called politics because this the way it is run. Not many menshs there, but there are a few. I would rather be a mensh ( a good person) than be a verbal bully. Friday, I was in the doctor's office to get two shots for my two aching knees. A patient in the office with me in the waiting room got up to go to see the doctor. On the way, she said to me "you sure look 'snappy'. I said what do you mean? She said" I love your nails, your blue coat and your beautiful stockings." This sure made me feel 'snappier.' A few simple words enhances some one's day. elita sohmer clayman this article called Be A Mensh Like Comment Share Comments