Feel 10 Feet Tall and Feel Beautiful

In an obituary this morning about a very accomplished man who passed on, they quote his daughter who said “dad never had any heroes to follow. He said you have to be your own hero.” This a good line, we can become our own hero and then we will have accomplished as someone said- we will have unbounded courage and compassion. I heard this line/thought on a soap opera yesterday. One man said to a woman when she had been berated by someone. He said it was his old mom who had done the admonishing, he said “remember it does not matter what someone thinks of you, it is what you think of yourself.” We can all live by those simple words. We can become our own hero and think highly and proudly of our accomplishments and we can be satisfied of who we are right now. The person who looks down on you is doing adult bullying, which is just as terrible as teen bullying, which has become in this country, a great problem with teens. It is easier to be kind than to be unkind. Just yesterday, I was in the eye doctor’s office waiting to be seen. The female ophthalmologist, who was not taking care of me this time, walked out with her patient and came over to say hi to me. She said I looked so beautiful and she made me feel ten feet tall. The male eye doctor said “you just came from the hair salon ( I did) and your husband should take you out to dinner, because you look so lovely.” Again, I felt another ten feet tall which made me too tall to walk through the doorway to go home. Words are powerful, deceptive, harmful, wonderful, and delightful. Take your pick. Be wise enough when dealing with others to always be compassionate and do your best to give peace to someone instead of turmoil. You will be the ten feet tall person, not the little unpleasant person. As the soap opera actor said, it is what you know is true and think of yourself. There is a saying “Some of your best days of your life have not happened and the best is yet to come.” You are the victor, the champion and the gold medal winner. You are you. elita sohmer clayman