Let's Focus on the Issue - Domestic Violence

By Jasmin Witcher
Bethany House of Northern Virginia
www.bhnv.org

With all the recent focus on the Rice family, the NFL and questions as to who viewed the video and knew what, and when, I believe we should stop judging and pointing fingers and start focusing on the larger issue. Domestic violence is a local and a national problem that knows no boundaries. With one in four women experiencing domestic violence in her lifetime, it is imperative that victims receive the support and care needed to stay safe.

A segment of the video was released earlier this year sometime after the incident. At that time, my thoughts and concern immediately turned to the victim. Is she protecting herself and her child? Does she have access to a safe place? Is she seeking help, counseling?

As the Interim Executive Director of Bethany House of Northern Virginia, Inc. I, and the other BHNV staff, ask ourselves these kinds of questions every day.

Bethany House is a registered 501(c)3 non-profit, crisis intervention service organization serving Northern Virginia and the DC metro community. It was founded in 1979 by Mrs. Doris Ward to help women and their children who have suffered from domestic violence regain health and dignity and become re-established in their community. We provide this by offering temporary, safe housing and support. Our vision is to eliminate domestic violence one family at a time.

Janay Palmer is a domestic violence victim, and the incident earlier this year may or may not have been the first time she was physically assaulted. We know that domestic violence most often occurs behind closed doors and out of the public’s view. 

When female victims of domestic abuse or intimate partner abuse call us, our primary, immediate focus is on helping them leave their abuser and get to a safe place. Through our initial intake process, we assist with safety planning, counseling and if needed, refer victims to emergency shelter at Bethany House or another agency if our shelter beds are full. Once in our shelter program, we work closely with each woman to determine what other services, counseling and support are needed.

Our clients are able to stay in our emergency shelter for up to 4 months – and sometimes longer - before moving into permanent or transitional housing situations. We offer an Aftercare program where shelter graduates can receive continued case management and support for up to two years.


It is up to us as a community to ensure that domestic violence victims receive the services and support they need to rebuild independent lives and transition into futures free from abuse. Bethany House helps women and their children to do exactly that by providing housing, counseling, life skills training, and intensive case management support.

As we have seen with the Ray Rice incident, so much attention has been paid to the abuser that the needs of the victim – in this case, his wife -- have been overlooked. This can send a negative message to individuals experiencing domestic violence that they are somehow to blame and can have the harmful effect of discouraging victims from coming forward and seeking help.

It is imperative that abuse victims are fully supported. Some women who suffer years of repeated abuse never talk about it with family or friends. Many never leave their abuser, and do not receive help or counseling to deal with the emotional trauma caused by an abusive relationship. This is a pervasive problem in our society.

Help us end domestic violence. If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, call the Bethany House Helpline at 703-658-9500.