Disagreements are normal

When arguments are out of control, one spouse usually refuses to back down in an effort to win and prove that he or she is right. In cases where a spouse wins, the marriage suffers.

The next time you are having a disagreement with your spouse ask yourself the following questions:

Could my spouse be right?

Is my reaction relieving the problem?

Will my reactions drive my spouse away or draw them closer to me?

Will I win or will I lose?

What price will I pay if I win?

Use your disagreements to understand your spouse. Your fist instinct might be to defend yourself, but it will get you nowhere. Listen attentively and control your temper. Look for common grounds instead of a rebuttal. Consequently, you might lose the disagreement, but you will win your marriage.

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