How successful can you make your marriage if you focus on the positive? Your attitude toward your spouse can be one of the most important factors that change your marriage from failure to success.
You can compliment an individual, but if this individual refuses to see any positive, the compliment is meaningless. Marriage is no different. If you cannot see the positives in your marriage, you might see the glass is half empty.
What can you do?
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Have an attitude adjustment.
1. Do not be critical of your spouse - Notice I say do not be critical. Attacking your spouse’s character is not problem solving. When you are being critical to your spouse, you are tearing your spouse down.
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2. Take captive your automatic thoughts - You know those negative thoughts that lead you to believe your marriage is hell. Those thoughts can be quite intrusive. Correct those destructive thoughts. Just to name a few. Ex: A. Labeling - you attribute a negative personality trait to your spouse leading you to believe that he or she can never change." He's passive-aggressive" “she’s lazy." B. All or nothing thinking - you describe your interactions as being all good or all bad without examining the possibility that some experiences with your spouse are positive.
"You never help." "You never show affection." “You’re always negative."
3. List the positive – The more you focus on the positive aspects of your spouse, the more positive you will see and experience in your marriage.
Seeing the positive in your spouse and in your marriage, can be a game changer. Start to search for the positive today.
Question: How successful can you make your marriage if you focus on the positive?
