Commitment, a key ingredient for a great marriage

It is sad to even write about this.  But these days commitment has gotten a bad rep in marriage. Commitment is associated with being tied down, being weak, being a doormat etc.

Lack of commitment is - we are not compatible. My favorite one - we fall out of love.

The whole notion of pledging love to one person is sometime frown upon. Many men and women who say “I do” miss the wisdom in commitment. One foot is in and one is out. Together but separate lives. That is not commitment.

Commitment is a dedication to serve your spouse.

A pledge to honor your spouse. Commitment is denying yourself. Commitment is cherishing your spouse.

Serve, dedicate, honor, deny of the self and cherishing my spouse. That is a lot of work. What do I get?

That is the wrong question.

Commitment is really about giving all of the above without worrying about the role of your spouse. If you focus on how your spouse is not meeting your needs, you are giving 50%. The rewards of commitment will just passed you by.

Yes, it is hard to be committed when you are facing conflict in your relationship. But it is not impossible.

Participate fully in your marriage and be committed. Once you are looking at what your spouse is not doing, you already halfway committed. You will not see the good in your spouse.

Questions: How can you show commitment in your marriage? What actions will you take today to demonstrate commitment?

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