Help! I Can't Forgive My Spouse (Part 3)

Forgiveness in marriage requires decision and reconstruction. We have looked at the cost of unforgiveness and how it is affecting you and your marriage. In order to forgive your spouse, you have to make a daily decision. Today, I invite you to look at a decision to forgive and to restore your marriage.

Deciding to forgive your spouse is to let go of  all the benefits of unforgiveness - the blame weapon, the victim mindset, the right to sympathy and the  no personal responsibility factor.

However, since forgiveness is a choice. You have to decide between suffering with unforgiveness and holding on to its benefits or working toward peace of mind for yourself and your marriage

Forgiveness is a process. It is not easy. During the reconstruction phase, get support. You might vacillate between anger and the feeling to move forward. Pray for your marriage. Be open to your spouse. Remember, both of you have to take personal responsibility to reconstruct the marriage. Not just your spouse.

The benefits of forgiveness are endless in marriage. Just to name a few, release from anger, the ability to move forward with your life, the ability to build the relationship, etc.

Do not hold yourself hostage by holding  on to grudges in your marriage.