Help! I Can't Forgive My Spouse (Part 2)

Most of the time, you do not forgive because you are scared, you are angry and you have lack of trust issue. It is normal that you feel this way, but you need to let go of the anger, the lack of trust, the fear of being betrayed again. 

First, you must acknowledge that you have been hurt. Acknowledging the feelings is just the first step. Acknowledging the feelings is not dwelling on the feelings, just being aware that they are there.

Acknowledging the feelings is talking to your spouse about your feelings without putting him or her on the cross over and over and over again.

I will repeat it again. Acknowledging the feelings is talking to your spouse about your feelings without putting him or her on the cross over and over and over again.

Acknowledging your feelings is allowing yourself to heal even when there is no reconciliation.

Forgiveness is for you. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgiveness does not change the past.

So today, I invite you to work on acknowledging your feelings about your unforgiveness

Questions:  What are some of the feelings you have toward yourself and your spouse about your unforgiveness. Be specific. Allow yourself to grieve and then make a decision to address those feelings with your spouse. If it is not possible to talk to your spouse, write about the feelings.

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