Ten Tips to Build Connection in Your Marriage

You arrived home from work, and you are greeted with an argument. Now, this is not the way to build connection with your spouse. The best thing to do is to get on your electronic device and release your stress. Wrong.

One reason couple are disconnected from each other, they assume connection will occur naturally. In order to build a strong marriage you have to build and stay connected to your spouse.  Listed below are 10 quick tips that are guaranteed to strengthen your connection with your spouse. Practice these tips today and thank me later.

   1.     Text or call before you get home – Technology should be helping to get closer not separating from your spouse. Friends on Facebook should not know more about your then your spouse. Keep your spouse updated on how your day is going with a simple text or call.

   2.     Special greeting – When you get home, greet your spouse happily. Your home is your haven. The greeting is sending a message.  Think of it, what are you saying to your spouse when you get home? I am to see you or I do not want to be bother

  3.     The kiss – You are married. Kiss each other.

  4.     The gaze – When you courting each other, you had the teenage-romance factor. You could not wait to see each other. Bring that fire back. Really gaze in each other eyes.

  5.     Really talk – I am not talking about the 2 minutes. I usually recommend at least 15 minutes. Turn off Scandal. And yes, turn off Walking Dead. This talk is not about bills and the kids. It is about you and your spouse. It does not have to be a deep talk, but you need to get connected.

   6.     Really listen – Make every effort to be present. Ask questions and give input.

   7.     Hold hands – Holding hands take place in marriage too.  I actually give this as assignment because so many married couples are not holding hands. You do not have to be in public setting to hold hands. You can hold hands at home.

   8.     Cuddle – Cuddling can lead to sex, but it should be taken place by itself. Cuddling will help you to bond.

   9.     Set the mood – Sex usually starts outside the bedroom. Tell your spouse he or she is attractive. Tell your love them. Do things around the house that make them feel appreciated. Be affectionate.

   10.     Night of passion – if you are doing the tips listed above on a regular basis, you are guaranteed to have great sexual intimacy.  Sexual intimacy is also needed to have a great connection. The tips listed above are not intended to lead to sex. However, most of the couples that I work with report that when they are connected at the above levels, sexual intimacy occur naturally. Sex does not have to be an obligation, or an afterthought in your marriage.

An amazing marriage requires connection. Daily connection. Do not wait for your spouse to build the connection. You make the first move. At first, it might seems silly or weird, but your marriage worth the effort.

Questions: Do you feel connected to your spouse? What will you do to get the desired connection?

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