People go to therapists for all kinds of reasons. They trust them to help them through a problem no matter how long it takes them to get over it or learn to deal with it. Therapists most the time will guide you through different steps and help you to learn to cope with what ever is going on in your life. With a rape they teach you not to blame yourself and how none of it is your fault. In abuse they work with you to help you understand it and what your options are. They are not there to tell you it has been long enough and you need to get over it. That is not part of the healing process and that is not what they should be dong. People heal at different stages and times, sometimes they go to therapy for years on how to deal with an issue.
There are no time limits on healing and when a therapist tells you that it has been enough time then that therapist obviously doesn't know how to deal with it themselves.
To me this is just another form of abuse and how the system fails us. Where is your passion? Where is your obligation to that patient? Where did you get your license from? Why would anyone tell you that you should be over something that is traumatic enough for you to seek counseling in the first place?
This happened to someone that I met and for the life of me I can't understand it. They left the therapist office and never returned. What would have happened if they kept going back? Would this therapist have made it harder on them? Would this have turned out to be another victim of therapist abuse? Is it already another victim of therapist abuse?
If your therapist isn't working with you to resolve your problems then they are not doing their job. Find another therapist that will work with you. Don't ever allow anyone to tell you it has been long enough and you need to get over it as you don't.
