A lot of times when a victim first speaks out people don't believe them which includes their family and friends. How could a professional have done this? Why would they have chosen this person? A spouse or mate might look at you like you cheated on them. Family members might act like you just were in a relationship that went wrong so you want to put the blame on someone. Professional abuse is real and does happen. Although, you might think these victims could have stopped it the couldn't and didn't. It does not mean that it isn't real and didn't happen to them. Just like someone that is being abused at home and doesn't report it or leave, it is not their fault.
When the victims decides to come out with this information and fight for what is right then they need spouse/mate/family to back them up. This is something very had to do and they are not doing it to put you in the lime light. They aren't doing it to show how they got away with having an affair and now going to put it out there in the public's eye to make you look bad. They are doing it to help other victims or to prevent it from happening again, They need all the support they can get and if they have more hurdles in their lives because their mate doesn't support them it makes it harder for them. Help them to speak out about this, and don't fight them in the need to get the word out there. Just like the victim is not at fault neither are the spouse/mate.
