A Most Prized Possession...

     Being happy with ourselves, for many of us, is a state of mind not easily achieved; especially, when, so often times, we are basing our 'happiness' on things that are, fairly, superficial. For many, who feel that 'happiness' eludes them, because they don't like what they see in the mirror...hair not right, clothes too tight...and, allowing what they imagine to be disappointing, perceived imperfections to define who they are, because they look outside rather than in, liking themselves, based on this, results in, true-happiness, never realized. When we choose to believe that our happiness comes from outer-sources, rather than from within, and, our perception of ourselves doesn't match the ideal we may set, we will always be disappointed, at one time or another. For, as we are aware, over the years, our physical-selves change...we grow older, wrinkles come, bodies 'mature'. So, when our love of self comes from things external, our 'happiness' may fluctuate, just as our weight. Yet, when we acknowledge our inner-selves, recognizing the strengths of our character, knowing and respecting who we are, and, having a genuine interest in this part of who we are, we can and will find contentment which will not vacillate. But, simply, because we wish to feel this way about ourselves doesn't make it so. It is necessary to make the decision to focus on our best 'features'. In my opinion, learning to love one's self, regardless of weaknesses possessed is offering one's self a great gift. Let's face it, we...none of us, are perfect; There is no such condition within the human-condition. However, most of us, despite our short-comings, are good, and, recognition of this goodness is essential to optimal self-esteem. Another quality which lends itself to a healthy relationship with self is integrity. So...what does this mean? Integrity means to be of good character - to be honest, reliable and, to not bring harm upon others. Is this you? If so...be proud! There seems to be a wealth of folks, who CANNOT claim integrity as a characteristic. Liking and loving ourselves is a healthy thing, and not, as some may feel, a show of arrogance or conceit. It is, also, important to take care of our outer-selves, our shells, as they are the temples which house the 'Light' within; but, it is the 'Light' that we must concentrate on, in order to, sincerely, be happy with self; and, as it is only through self-love that we can show love to others, the quest for a meaningful relationship with ourselves will only serve others, better. This is a win-win situation, in my book. Just Sayin'...