Limit Yourself...

   Learning to 'set-boundaries' in life is essential to well-being; For, when we fail to do so, we 'allow' others to take advantage of us. Then, typically, we get angry at those, whom we feel are 'using' us, rather than to realize that it is our duty and responsibility, to ourselves, to 'set the limits' of what we're comfortable with doing, for others, or, even for ourselves, for that matter; As, sometimes, we may, actually, expect more from our, own, self, than what we are capable of doing, at any given time or, in, any, particular place. Whether it be doing a 'favor' for somebody else, or thinking we MUST, for self, accomplish a 'thing', in a set amount of time, realistic or not, we ought never do anything that we don't garner something positive from. When one finds him or herself feeling frustrated, at the idea of performing a 'friendly'-favor, for another, or, offering self-praise, whenever a nicety is performed, which is a WHOLE 'nuther thing, perhaps, it's time to ask one's self, why it is he or she is performing at said, helpful, act, at all. Naturally, when raising small children, there are OFTEN moments when one must 'DO', whether, truly, wanting to, or not. However, when a person is, forever, extending him or herself to others, and, getting, little, to no, satisfaction in the bargain, this is a good indication that this person has a difficult time setting, healthy-personal boundaries, and, subsequently, saying 'NO'. Often, we feel a need to over-extend ourselves out of a desire to be 'liked'; a neediness, which, when left 'unchecked', can and will 'sap' us of self, in our want for acceptance, by and from others. It's great to be kind and generous with ourselves and our time. It's wonderful to help, when one can, especially, if someone is is need. However, if the motivation behind any of the assistance we offer, comes from our own lack of self, and, a NEED to be Mr. or Mrs. 'Nice-person', then, we're forgetting, one, very, vital component of happiness: this, being, being GOOD to ourselves. Say 'YES' to yourself and others, only when you mean it. Don't forget, that, 'NO means NO', and that it's OK to say so, once in awhile. Just Sayin'...