Wise-Words...

     Words have POWER, and, once, uttered, can NOT be 'taken-back'; and, so...it is ALWAYS, wisest, when communicating our feelings, to 'choose our words-wisely'. Our choice communiques, after a fact, may NOT, as it turns out, be the 'choicest'; for, haven't we ALL, in 'fits of anger', or, when not giving enough, thought to a 'well-intentioned' 'message', to another, stated-syllables, that, we wish we could 'bite-back', experiencing our 'epiphany', regarding our elocution, as soon as our words have left our mouths? OOOOPS! SHOULDN'T have said THAT! As it has been said, by parents, across the globe, especially to the 'elder' of us, 'Mind your P's and Q's', this, little, idiom, referring to minding one's manners, in any given situation, we, might, also have been told to 'mind our ABC's', and, to always, at least TRY to resonate-responsible when it comes to relaying our feelings, a la verbiage. I imagine, that, most, parents, in each their own way, have offered some, similar, 'message' to their charges; yet, regardless, of what we, may learn, and, 'know' intellectually, it is with GREAT frequency, that, we come from a place of emotion, rather, than a place of intellect and 'thoughtfulness', when some of us 'attack first...think, later'. Typically, too, we will feel guilt and remorse, for having been too-swift, in our expulsion of expression, upon acknowledging that we have, indeed, been a bit harsh and hurtful, and, WHO wants to feel this way, truly, after, which, we are faced with the NEED to atone. NOT me, that's a 'for sure'! And, so...I DO NOT say ANYTHING to ANYONE, that, would come back to 'haunt' me; thus, I feel no remorse wrapped around any of what I relay, in the way of words; for, I 'think' about what I wish to convey. If and when I am in a situation, whereby, I may begin to feel embroiled, well...I walk away, rather, than, to permit my 'emotions' to do the talkin'. In the long-run, this, 'tactic' has panned-out, very well. For, now, if the feelings of others are 'hurt' by what I 'put out there', I KNOW, that, I've not a thing to do with those, 'crushed-feelings', as, I am A) thoughtful as to my word-choices, B) I own MY feelings, not 'pointing-fingers' and 'blaming others, and, C) am NOT in control of how others 'perceive' my message. I have found, that, with personal-responsibility comes 'personal-freedom', as well. In concluding, remember...you can save yourself the need to 'wax-apologetic', if you practice at the 'art' of communicating. Just Sayin'...